Dear Love,
Meeting a transman that reflects who you have imagined yourself to be has changed you. Suddenly there is movement, possibility...you see your future and you almost believe it. You speak of feeling good in your body, of being proud of your journey, of wanting people to know where you come from. You don't want to let go of who you were to become who you are. I don't think you have to.
It's not harmful or detrimental to stay in this body. You love your body and you have made it your home. You can go on living your life just as it is and you can be happy. You can wear a binder and keep shopping in the boys' department without ever taking T or having surgery. There is no right way to be trans. No right way to be a man.
I see the possibility of physical transformation like someone who maintains fulfilling hetero relationships and never comes out as bisexual or someone who stays in a long-term marriage because they don't believe there is more for them. You can be safe, stable, and keep to the familiar and be perfectly content. Or, you can journey out into new territory.
You have a chance to be more alive, more whole and to reach even higher potential. New experiences and opportunities are waiting if you choose to explore them. You've heard that for some, the decision to transform comes from body hate or extreme discomfort or an urge that cannot be silenced. Changing your body and your life would not be a decision made out of necessity, the change would come from a place of growth and out of a desire for greater authenticity. Changing your body would not mean hiding who you were. You get to decide how it's done. And I will be right here to support you.
Heart,
Me
Meeting a transman that reflects who you have imagined yourself to be has changed you. Suddenly there is movement, possibility...you see your future and you almost believe it. You speak of feeling good in your body, of being proud of your journey, of wanting people to know where you come from. You don't want to let go of who you were to become who you are. I don't think you have to.
It's not harmful or detrimental to stay in this body. You love your body and you have made it your home. You can go on living your life just as it is and you can be happy. You can wear a binder and keep shopping in the boys' department without ever taking T or having surgery. There is no right way to be trans. No right way to be a man.
I see the possibility of physical transformation like someone who maintains fulfilling hetero relationships and never comes out as bisexual or someone who stays in a long-term marriage because they don't believe there is more for them. You can be safe, stable, and keep to the familiar and be perfectly content. Or, you can journey out into new territory.
You have a chance to be more alive, more whole and to reach even higher potential. New experiences and opportunities are waiting if you choose to explore them. You've heard that for some, the decision to transform comes from body hate or extreme discomfort or an urge that cannot be silenced. Changing your body and your life would not be a decision made out of necessity, the change would come from a place of growth and out of a desire for greater authenticity. Changing your body would not mean hiding who you were. You get to decide how it's done. And I will be right here to support you.
Heart,
Me
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